If you will be offended by frank discussions of bathroom necessities, I encourage you to find another post to read. You need not bother yourself with this one!
Thank you.
One of the most mentally burdensome issues for me as I think about this trip: The squatty potties.He wrote back very graciously:
I have confronted a squatty potty two or three times in my life. I hated the very thought of using it. Talk about filthy andsmelly! . . .
As I contemplate a week and a half of being in an area with such facilities, I realize it is almost impossible that I will avoid facing some extended periods near a hole and . . . messiness. And all kinds of questions arise:
- How do you balance yourself for such extended periods?
Also:
- When my system is acting up, I can't tell where the [unmentionables] will fly . . . which means, if I leave my pants down around my calves, I worry about possibly soiling them. . . . But to remove them completely (considering the filth that was on the floors of the h*ll-holes I recall!)
. . . I can't imagine such a thing. So then I wonder: what does one do? Is there some kind of discrete "instruction book" to which you could refer me? Any coaching someone can provide?. . . I have this sense that a person who grows up in such a society is taught early on how to deal with all extreme circumstances. But I didnot. . . . Perhaps some others would appreciate "hearing" answers. Or maybe I'm the only true neophyte.
- What are the "rules" and conventions concerning "public" v. more "private" potties? (I have been in an airport in India (???) that had no
doors . . . )
THANKS!
John,His answer put me at ease, and I was fine with what he had said
Let me see if I can set the squatty potties problem in its narrow context. First, the use of squatty potties begins after we leave Diyarbakir.. . . We will be staying at hotels in [Iraq]. In every hotel, I believe, there is a western toilet. So we are talking about problems during the day, when we are with our friends, and when we are traveling. When I use a squatty potty, I balance myself by putting my right hand on the wall behind me. There should be privacy, including a door, in eachplace. . . .
I am glad you are coming, and proud of you for coming despite the dread of what you may have to face. You can ask me anything at anytime without embarrassment.
Meanwhile, someone came into the stall next to mine. He finished his business much more rapidly than I did and I could hear him using the water: sloosh, sloosh, sloosh!
"What is he doing? How is he doing it? How do the natives make this work?"
I got out and asked Bob for the details. "I mean, if I had grown up in this society, I would know. But I did not. Someone has to teach a child how to deal with all these kinds of things when she or he is growing up: 'What you do when you have to go #2. What you do when you
Bob, ever the joker, said, "Come on! In America, with sit-down toilets, no one had to teach
Bob answered straightforwardly and without embarrassment.
"You use your left hand. You wet it, then wipe yourself. Wet and wipe until you're clean. . . . Just be glad that you have water and don't have to use sand!"
"'Sand'!" I said in amazement. "What do you mean?"
"If you don't have water, then you use sand. And it gets really itchy on your backside until you get someplace where you can use water
[!!!!!] "Did you ever have to use sand?!?" I asked.
He shrugged yes and walked
Yep.
You get to know yourself in a whole new way.
He noted (what I already knew), that it is due to the understood use of the left hand (to wipe one's bottom) that one should never pass food in this part of the world by means of your left hand.
"It also puts a different spin on the significance for a criminal of having his right hand cut
"Of course, they cut off thieves' right hands not in order to force them to eat with their left hand. But it is because they understand the right hand to be the strong hand," I commented.
"True enough," he agreed. "But it does add a new dimension of understanding."
Someone commented yesterday: "This is a stooping, squatting society. You squat to go to the bathroom. You kneel or sit on the floor to